In less than a week I will turn sixty. Wow!
Mentally it doesn't compute. I look in the mirror and still see my 18 year old self...I know, I know. 100% delusional. I pretty much feel 18. Certainly no more than 30.
18. almost 60.
(Carlos looks embarrassed to be in the middle....)
Twelve items on the list weren't done at all. Two have been worked on. One is scheduled. I've done a couple of extras. When I made the list I could not imagine the turns my life would take in the coming years. I made the list while living outside the fourth largest city in the United States. I'm finishing up the list living in a tiny rural area in Colorado two hours from anything. Number 20: MOVE!! was put on there as a lark. Mostly I was thinking move houses. Not move cities. Or states.
So those 12 items will be moved to Project 90x90. Maybe. I may rethink a couple of them.
And until I get that 90x90 website up and running, I thought I would share a few things I've learned in the last three years.
Or maybe the last 60 years.
1) Food is love.
Maybe I've seen too many chef/restaurant movies or maybe I have just finally figured out that food is not just food. Good food feeds your body. Junk food junks up your body. I still have my fast food cravings (Chick Fil A anyone? Jack in the Box tacos?) and I am looking forward to Tex Mex but I know that the healthy stuff makes me feel better.
Beyond the actual health benefits of eating real food and healthy food, though, I have learned the joy in making a meal and sharing it with others. In being the guest at someone else's table. In sharing my banana bread with some grateful young men. In making cookies to give away as thanks.
Food is love.
Food. Feed your body. Feed your soul.
(image from the movie: Burnt)
(And if you want to see a good movie with gorgeous food and gorgeous Bradley Cooper, go see Burnt. )
2) Change is good.
It can be uncomfortable. Scary. Even unwanted.
But every time you have to face a fear, make a change, deal with the world changing around you, well, you grow. You learn something new. Brain cells connect . Maybe your heart expands a bit. Your eyes widen. Learning new stuff is cool. And good for you. Even if you think you didn't want to learn anything new, you just wanted to stay in your little shell. Change. It's good.
Make your brain happy.
3) Friends are the Bomb.Dot.Com.
Honest. My friends are awesome. They have come through for me so many times and in so many ways. I try to be a good friend back. Some days I'm awesome, some days I fall really short. I'm whiney. I complain way too much. I think it is my way of working through stuff. But O! My friends have been such great sounding boards. I have some super smart friends. I learn stuff new from them all the time.
Friends are family you get to choose. Make some. Nourish your relationships.
I'm happy to say I have friendships
that have almost crossed this time span.
(I say "almost" because I'm not that old yet.)
4) Money is Power and Freedom and
5) Work is dignity.
Money. Love it. Hate it. Worship it. Never enough, is there?
But here is what I know. A little money in a secret stash is important. If you have your own money, no one can tell you what to do with it. That is empowering and freeing. I've been trying to impart this bit of wisdom to my girls. And especially to the boy.
Number Five goes along with Number Four because the most common way to get money is to work for it. And working gives you purpose and structure. A feeling of accomplishment. O! And a paycheck. So Four brings us to Five and Five brings us to Four.
I love a full circle.
Like I said,
change is good.
Sooo...I'm signing off this website at the end of December. And what posting I do between now and then will be even more random than it has been, if that is possible. I have a birthday, a friend's son's wedding and a 1000 mile move all scheduled in the next ten days. And then comes Christmas which I am woefully unprepared for. Belle will be arriving in Colorado from Florida with a friend boy in tow. They will help get Bunny back to Texas. A quick check last night resulted in a resounding "No" when I asked if there was a Christmas tree awaiting me in Texas.
Basically my life for the rest of the month will be herding kittens through Jell-o. Can't wait.
Join me in the New Year here: PROJECT 90x90